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By: Leshay Jones, Editor in Chief.

I am going to be completely honest here. I have not always been a feminist and I did not even know what it really meant until about two years ago.

Yes, I said it. There were times when I would claim to be a feminist and I didn’t fully understand what it meant.

I used to just think, “I’m a woman. Feminists are women. Therefore, I am a feminist.

However, I quickly learned that this syllogism of mine was very flawed. I had a vague idea of the concept of feminism.

According to the dictionary, feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.”

It seems simple enough, right? Women should be equal! We want equal pay! We can be CEOs, doctors and presidents, too!

However, I learned over the years that feminism is much deeper than that. Not all feminists are menhating crazy women. Feminism is not just about equality for women; it’s equality for all of the sexes.

So, yes, women want equal pay, we want to be recognized for our hard work, we want to rid of the stereotypes of women in the kitchen and, most of all, we want respect.

I shouldn’t be afraid to walk home at night with the fear of being assaulted. I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable walking down the street past a group of men catcalling. I shouldn’t be objectified.

With that being said, as a feminist, it is important to take into consideration that, believe it or not, these things happen to men, too. I am more that willing to admit that many women do objectify men.

Another common misconception is that men cannot be feminists, which I believe is complete nonsense. The goal is for women and men to be equal in most aspects, and if a man supports this idea and is an advocate, then he is a feminist.

Now, I said that women want to be equal in most, aspects, and I cannot stress this enough.

Most, if not all, women want to be equal to men when is comes to pay, job opportunities and so on. However, there are some traditions and stereotypes that women carry with them.

One example would be marriage proposals. Traditionally, men propose to women, and though there are some cases where the roles are reversed, it is very rare. Would women at BCC propose to a man?

“I wouldn’t only because of tradition. In Spanish culture, the men propose,” BCC student Natalie Rosario said.

What about when it comes to bills? Should the man be responsible for the for most of the bills, while the woman takes care of the housework?

I had a debate with my older sister a few months ago about this situation. To her, the man should be responsible for the mortgage while she takes care of some of the smaller bills and housework, such as cooking and cleaning.

I, on the other hand, completely disagree. When you are living with someone, and when you are married, it is a partnership. Everything should be equal.

Let’s come up with a compromise to split the expenses evenly. Whoever gets home first cooks dinner, or let’s cook dinner together.

I feel like if women want equality, it has to be in every sense of the word. We can’t want to be equal in some areas and not in others.

Feminism does not have to be a negative thing. We can all strive so that we are equal in all aspects of the word no matter our gender, race, ethnicity or whatever else you can think of.

At the end of the day, we are all human and we all deserve to be treated with the same respect.